Thursday, July 21, 2011

CAUTION: VENTING BELOW

Hi all! It's almost the end of the week! Yay!

Ok now onto venting. So, T and I are still doing well, I guess. Well, I found out today that he's getting a weekend job, which I know he needs. He goes to school and then does an unpaid internship all week, so this is very understandable. The problem is, we only see each other on the weekends. He also said he's pretty sure that he'll be working Friday, Saturday and Sunday of every weekend. Great.

I'm a bit frustrated to say the least. This weekend, (tomorrow evening actually), my friends and I are going to Austin, to hit up 6th street and have a fantastic time. I invited T, but he told me he can't go. That's fine, I'll have a great time with all my girls. But, once he told me he couldn't go, I texted him and said, "Ok well I guess let me know if you wanna hang out one day this week." To which he responded, "Ok, yeah we'll figure out a day!" Ha, well it's Thursday at 4:04pm and he's yet to suggest we do anything at all. I knew he would do that though. I'm always the one planning this or that, and then when it's left up to him, it's like he doesn't even think about me. I'm pretty sick of it. I feel like I put in 80% of the effort and him 20%. I drive an hour to see him EVERY WEEKEND, since he doesn't have much money for gas. And don't get me wrong, I don't MIND, infact I'm happy to do it so that we can see each other, but a little reciprocity would be nice!

I mean, even today, it would've been me driving to him. But, he can't even ask me to come over? Ugh. Sadly, this is how most of my relationships go. I put my heart and soul into it, and then I'm taken for granted. That's why I decided I'm not mentioning to him that if we don't see each other today, it'll be another week before we do. I need to learn to make a guy work to spend time with me. I think I give my kindness away too easily and then it's expected. So, in conclusion, I honestly don't see this relationship lasting much longer if it continues this way.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

2 comments:

  1. Sometimes guys are just clueless and want to leave the plans up to you because: a) they have zero creativity and/or b) they just want you to be happy.

    I hope this is the case in your relationship. ;)

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  2. See I know guys are clueless, but I'm not so sure if this is the case or not. Hopefully it is! lol

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